Skip to main content

My partner has sex with other people, which I find exciting but also difficult






My partner has sex with other people, which I find exciting but also difficult

I am a 36-year-old man and have been in a very good relationship for three years. My partner has gradually become more interested in polyamory, and I find that exciting. When she has had sex with someone else, it often feels very special and affectionate when we are together again – and sometimes very arousing – but it can be difficult to have penetrative sex. I don’t want to take the easy way out and try to renegotiate monogamy. What is the way forward?

I doubt that “renegotiating monogamy” would be the “easy way out”. But you are allowed to change your mind, and if polyamory is not for you, it is important to say so and be clear about what you can and cannot handle. You are at a stage of exploration, and our society is focused on monogamy, so stepping outside those values can seem frightening. What will anchor you both is having a strong core relationship with a great deal of discussion, sharing your feelings and asking for what you truly need.

It would be perfectly reasonable to express your current misgivings now, saying: “I am still excited and intrigued by the idea, but I’m really not ready to commit to it. While I’m willing to continue exploring, I may eventually need to return to something simpler, maybe more exclusive. Can you please try to understand that?” I would also try to better understand her desire for polyamory, and exactly what it means to her. Would halting this current course be a deal-breaker for her? If so, you would have the option to walk away. “Different” sexual lifestyles are not for everyone.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Sierra Leone Pastor found a stone Worth Billions of pounds

A Pastor has found one of the world’s largest uncut diamonds, weighing 706 carats, which could be the 10th largest ever found. It was found in Sierra Leone’s eastern Kono region. The stone, is being stored in the country’s central bank, government sources said. A local chief from Kono handed the stone to President Ernest Koroma on behalf of Emmanuel Momoh who made the discovery. The government plans to auction it. The stone is yet to be valued but could be worth millions of dollars. The presidency said in a statement that Mr. Koroma thanked the chief who acted as an intermediary for not smuggling it out of the country. Diamonds fueled a decade-long civil war that ended in 2002 in which 50,000 people were killed. Rebels forced civilians in the east to mine the stones and bought weapons with the proceeds, leading to the term “blood diamonds”. “He (Koroma) underscored the importance of selling such a diamond here as it will clearly give the owners what is due them and benefit the ...
Post a Comment
Read more

Diezani..... EFCC Traces $1.5Billion to Swiss Bank, Inspects her N7.1 Billion Mansion In Dubai

<script async src="//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js"></script> <script> (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({ google_ad_client: "ca-pub-6275812961637966", enable_page_level_ads: true }); </script> https://www.facebook.com/quennlady/ The Economic and finacial crimes commission [EFcc] has traced about $1.5billion , believed to be proceeds of crime to a swiss account ,as part  of investigations involving former Minister of Petroleum Diezani Alison Madueke. The anti graft agency has allegedly linked the loot to the ex Minister and four of her bussiness associates. a source told The Nation  that Diezani allegedly used two Shell companies to sell more than $1.5bn worth of Nigeria crude oil. Four detectives also left Nigeria on friday  and have gained Access to two exotic mansions belonging to the former Minister in Dubai , The United Arab Emirate [UAE] ahead of an Assets forfeiture proces...
Post a Comment
Read more

Drake’s Best Friend Shot To Death In Horrifying CCTV Foota

Toronto Police Service Police have released horrifying footage of Anthony ‘Fif’ Soares, a close friend of Drake, being shot to death as he waited in the lobby of an apartment block. The footage shows Soares in the foyer of the building after he was reportedly dropped off at the high rise in Toronto shortly before 3am last Thursday (September 14). All of a sudden, two men run up with guns drawn and shoot at him from outside through the glass doors, they continue to shoot him through the shattered glass before ‘fleeing in a white Ford Fusion’, writes the  Toronto Star . https://www.facebook.com/BadAssbea/ Emergency services were called to the scene and Soares was taken to hospital with numerous gunshot wounds, but he later died of his injuries. Detective Sergeant Gary Giroux, from Toronto Police Homicide unit,  said : In essence, the deceased was trapped between the inner foyer area and the offenders who were on the opposite side of the glass. Drake ...
Post a Comment
Read more